Happy Valentine’s Day, friends! To those of you with a significant other, I hope you go out and grab cupcakes and a drink! For those of you without a significant other, I hope you go out and grab cupcakes and a drink!
Matt and I actually got a babysitter for the night and are… going to the cinema! 😉 Who doesn’t want to watch a dramatic movie about the 1970’s and newspapers on Valentine’s Day?! It was this or 50 Shades Freed… which I considered since I read the books. But Matt and I tried to watch the first “50 Shades” movie together and I just couldn’t do it… so sitting in a movie theatre with complete strangers seemed even more out of the question.
I asked Matt if he’d participate in a little Valentine’s Day Q&A and he willingly agreed to do it — I suppose this is my Valentine’s present because I told him I would not read his responses until today – I would literally copy and paste what he wrote and not read a word. He said I might not want to do that in case his answers were shocking.
So… I have a drink in hand.
Let’s do this.
How do you balance your professional and personal lives?
Matt: I’m an early riser, so try and get my work done in the AM. This helps me free up time in the evening to disconnect and spend time with my family. I also go to Starbucks because trying to get work done in my house is impossible, then once I’m home I’m off the clock.
Allyson: Well……. I’m a stay-at-home mom. And I own an online clothing store. And I have a blog. And sell LipSense on the side. All three of those things involve the internet and social media so honestly, I feel like I’m never off the clock in any way! I’m momming 24/7 and then doing the side gigs 13 hours of the day as well. Matt has given me a hard time about being on my phone too much and he’s right – it’s a straight-up addiction. So now when I hear him walking up the stairs and I’m on my phone, I toss it to the side… to make him think I’m not on it as much. 🙌🏻
Things the other person can’t live without?
M: This is easy. An iced cold Coca-Cola.
A: As of recently, brussel sprouts. But I’m going with Cabela socks.
Any favorite traditions?
M: Allyson is all about spending time and decorating around the holidays. Thanksgiving afternoon typically includes the removal of pumpkins and purchase of a REAL Christmas tree.
A: Since Sloane was born, Matt has had a picture book made — almost like our family “Year in Review”. Which is amazing because I do not have the patience for doing something like that, yet LOVE it!!! He has only missed one year… or two, which is pretty good since he’s been doing it for five plus years now!
What’s the best dish the other person makes?
M: Allyson makes a great taco salad!
A: I’m an awful cook. I’m a ‘follow the recipe, do not veer’ kind of chef. If it doesn’t turn out well, it’s clearly not my fault because I follow a recipe EXACTLY as it was written, no variations! But Matt, on the other hand, is the complete opposite. He can whip stuff up and it’s ALWAYS good. I’d say my favorite meal that he makes is grilled steaks and mushrooms! So good!
What you’ve learned in 10 (+7) years?
M: Not enough if you’d ask Allyson (I’m a slow learner).
A: You forget that as you grow older, you still are changing and growing. I think the key is to know that and just make sure that you are growing and changing together. Some days are tough. Some days aren’t. It’s how you handle those tough days that get you to the next.
I”m a philosopher. 😉
What’s your favorite look for each other?
M: Jeans and a sweatshirt.
A: Matt’s had to invest in some nice sport coats for work and I’d have to say my favorite look is when he wear his nice jeans, a white button up shirt and his blue sport coat. His teeth are as white as his shirt so he just looks super handsome!
What about marriage were you not expecting?
M: There are two parts to marriage thus far. Pre-kids and with kids. The years before we had kids seems like a distant memory of sleeping in and lounging around on weekends. It was basically like being in college, but with money and a real job. Life with kids is non-stop, at least until 8PM when they go to sleep, which gives Allyson and I a solid hour before we fall asleep. That said it’s rewarding in many ways that make it all worth while.
A: We dated for SO long that I felt like I knew Matt pretty well. But dating and marriage are two completely different things. Dating, for us, didn’t involve living with each other. I had been around for a long time, but didn’t know he rolls his underwear when he puts them away. I also didn’t know that putting dishes in the dishwasher would be one of the two hardest tasks I ask him to do — the first being to hang his coat on a hangar in the coat closet where the rest of the coats are!
After many years of dating, 10 years of marriage and three kids later, how do you keep things fresh?
M: We stay up until 10:30 and watch Netflix. If things really get crazy we watch back-to-back episodes.
A: We are bad at this. I mean… really, really bad. We at least go out on dates here in Chicago, which was few and far between when we lived in Minneapolis and Bentonville. I blame my kids and the 30 extracurricular activities I started for myself for just being wiped out by the time Matt walks in the door after work.
Something you don’t see eye-to-eye on?
M: There are so many things, but I think that’s what makes it fun. Let me list off a few: Chinese food, HD vs. non-HD TV, indoor decor (she likes the house to look like an antique store, I like clean and modern), Lebron James, and dirty dishes in the sink vs. the diswasher.
A: I’m not sure what he’s going to say, but we are so different when it comes to sportsmanship and the way you handle yourself when playing sports. I remember one time in high school, we had just played our rival in volleyball and there was a girl on the opposing team that I couldn’t STAND. And we had just lost… so I went through the line at the end of the match and didn’t say ‘good game’ … to anyone. Do you want to know who was in my face about 15 seconds after that was over?
And as embarrassing as that was, it is something I will NEVER forget. And so anytime I see anyone acting like their poo doesn’t stink, I just think, “Ohhhhh kid, if you were mine, your rear would be sitting on the bench.”
Matt would say, “It’s part of the game! They are showing emotion. If they can back up their play, then it’s OK.” If our kids ever get into sports (which is iffy at this moment – I asked Sloane if she’d like to take tennis or knitting this spring… she chose knitting), we might have a heck of a time on this one…
Almost 10 years our, is there one moment from your wedding that stands out the most?
M: I remember wedding DJ announced Michael Phelps won his record setting 8th gold medal and the dance floor went crazy.
A: I just remember dancing. For a long time. And my mom kept asking me to come say hello to family members that had driven a long way to come to our wedding, and instead of getting to that, like I should have, I just kept dancing! Also, we got married during the summer Olympics and I have friends that are cuckoo for the Olympics so we were getting updates along the way!
What moment did you know they were the one?
M: I remember sitting outside of Heroe’s Bar in Wichita (cue Allyson rolling her eyes) after hours and just hanging out with Allyson while we were still in college. It was just a low key Saturday, nothing special, but we had one of those uneventful yet great nights. I knew then she was the one.
A: Probably day one.
I’m the pathetic one!
Matt and I had known each other for a long time and were good friends before we actually started dating… I fell head over heels in the snap of a finger.
I mean, have you seen his smile???!
What’s your favorite quality that they possess?
M: Allyson’s love of family is amazing. She’ll load us up in the car to drive 10 hours for a three day weekend with her family without blinking an eye.
A: Matt has this amazing way of not letting things get to him, that drive me absolutely mad! I truly do not understand and if there was any quality that I could snag from him, that would be it!
Your favorite trip you’ve taken together?
M: Allyson is going to say Hawaii, so I’ll go a different route. My favorite trip was a camping trip to Duluth, MN with when Sloane was still a toddler. It was the 4th of July, fireworks were going off everywhere (perfect for a 1 year old), the locals were complaining about the daytime heat in the high 70’s, and Allyson got to shower in a public campground restroom.
A: We’ve taken lots of trips… But one of my favorites was out to Colorado before we kids, before we were married. We drove out together, stayed at his aunts cabin, I attempted to teach him how to ski (which he hated that I knew something he didn’t know how to do), we hung out… we spent the majority of our relationship living two hours from each other so any trip with him was extra special!
Our honeymoon was amazing (London and Paris for a day), our trip to Hawaii was beautiful (though I missed our kids… so strange how you need to get away from them and the second you do, you miss them).. but that trip to Colorado was pretty great!
What has been your favorite Valentine’s Day date?
M: Tonight of course – Ash Wednesday mass followed by a movie.
Well… after copying and pasting Matt’s responses and now reading them, I have come to the definite conclusion that I, in fact, am long-winded. I mean, everyone that knows me… or has met me once knows this fact. And I guess it’s something you love or hate about me.
Please don’t respond with your answer on Valentine’s Day – this is a day of love! 😉
Have a great day, friends … it’s really just a day to remind us all to give a little love and celebrate it!